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Crazy Tale of an Indian Man’s Attempt to Woo a White Woman

 

Click here for the blog post all about what it feels like to fall in love with an Indian man …. and how that relationship is viewed by society: Reflections from a White Woman on Dating An Indian Man

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I don’t know if it’s because I’m now 43 or simply because anyone who wanted to hit on me has already done so, but the ‘creepy fan mail’ by Indian men trying to score a date has thankfully decreased measurably since 2011.  Before moving to India I had never received a Facebook invite from someone I didn’t know.  Not once!  And before moving to India I had never been emailed or messaged by men trying to hook up with me purely because I looked a certain way.  Never once in all my years!  So I was pretty happy that it seemed to have more or less stopped happening in my virtual online world.

Then came Sav S.

What amazes me most about these unwanted messages and mails is the variety in their strategy.  Some guys are really honest and put it all out there right from the get go.  Others try to ask questions and seek ‘advice’ as an opener or swear they just want to teach me about Indian culture (yeah, right!).  Then there are guys like ‘Sav S’ who pretend they are a professional who wants to write for my website but in the end they turn out to be just a wolf in sheep’s clothing – and this one turned UGLY real quick!

Take a read below to see just how quickly he flipped!  First he appreciates my blog, then he insults me with sexual innuendo, then he flips out a bit and tells me ‘I’m not his type anyway’ and that if I know of a hotter white or Latina woman that I should pass on the details to him!

So my question today goes to INDIAN WOMEN!  Does this happen to you, too?  I’d love to hear a few comments from you! 🙂

>> 1st Email from Sav S:

Hello, I’ve seen your website, its very interesting. I’d like to give some reviews and suggestions myself on some issues. Could you kindly get back to me as to how we could discuss further… Cheers, Sav

>> My Reply to the 1st Email: 

hahahaha ummmmmmmmmmmmmm…. you should give more information on yourself.  What magazines, newspapers and websites do you write for?  What is your blog URL?  What is your background, how jet-set is your lifestyle?  Send the above please, thanks!  -Angela

>> 2nd Email from Sav S:

😀 wow am liking the energy….I feel you …your quite proactive like me……darlin lemme talk to you on call, it would be much better to talk to you than type it to you…I’m an international athlete in Rowing. Won the gold, bronze and member of a few clubs around the country here and internationally…you could add me on skype {I DELETED SKYPE ID FOR PRIVACY) I would luv to talk to you for real..holla at me angela …ta

>> My Reply to 2nd Email:

Sorry, please send the requested info.  Cheers!

>> 3rd Email from Sav S (included an MP3 of something – didn’t listen):

sure no probs…..are you always business oriented here in this side of the world?…I mean you look ravishing to me…i’d luv to go hands on on you haha…just kidding…..but I wouldn’t talk to you about business…i’d talk to you about what you like to do for fun and stuff…you know you remind me of cynthia nixon..matter fact I sent you a message on facebook, I think the message would have gone into your other folder..I’m an entrepreneur. We manufacture gymnasium equipments for the last 25 years. Family business, am 33 , Now my passion is music, so i’m releasing my debut single soon onto itunes…I’ve attached an mp3 for you, check it out 😉 and now your turn…what do you usually like to do during the weekends

>> My FINAL Reply:

Please don’t contact me again.

 

***Now, enjoy reading his downward spiral to coo coo >>

>>>‘Last Ditch Effort’ Email #1

why? …am sorry if its something I said, I don’t know why would you say that…was it something I said?

>>>>>‘Last Ditch Effort’ Email #2 (with another MP3 file)

come on give me a break, you spoke about dating issues on your blog…you could be a bit more open and lemme know that your not looking to date or whatever. I’d respect that and leave it. Instead you chose to say not to contact you again without saying anything…so I suppose your on a power trip wanting to do a put down..I guess it worked…wow…..but look I apologize if you was offended in any way…I just wanted a lil conversation with you, its all I was asking…..but thanks a lot…I feel great now after what you just replied….I shouldn’t be feeling like this…but no worries, I guess we are not meant to be..I move on. Bye.

>>>>>>>>‘Last Ditch Effort’ Email #3

o boy I wanted to let you know, I sent you the wrong mp3……I was to send you the cover version of barry white’s ‘your the one I need’ ….its a romantic song …but I realized I sent you ‘sexy and I know it’ lol you must be thinking I was trying to big up myself or you must have thought am self promoting…I wasn’t luv lol…I was trying to lead with the romantic foot and not really talk about business lol…if you could give me a chance…i’d it would be awesome…anyways I don’t think your interested…so i’m a move on..bye luv.

>>>>>>>>>>>‘Last Ditch Effort’ Email #4 – hopefully the last one I ever receive!

by the way, if you know any beautiful single white women, or if there is any dating site here to meet caucasian or latino women, please do let me know…your not my type anyway. I really don’t do short haired women with thin lips. I like my women to have pouting lips. Besides your eyes look leery..kinda creepy..it looks like you do the leer look. Also your too thin. I like big tits and big ass. So we are not a match anyway. so no point..but byee.

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Nice, right? Haha  In the end this cyber Romeo wised up and decided that I was not his cup of tea with my leery eyes, thin lips and small boobs thank goodness!

As for me, I am just left wondering what the hell went through his mind that made it okay to 1) first lie to me and waste my time, and then 2) disrespect me with ‘just joking haha’ sexual advances as if I am an escort girl and not the VP of a digital marketing company and a successful blogger.  What a jerk!  Well, at least it was fun to see his downward spiral to coo coo unfold at the end.  Maybe it will deter him in the future?!?!?

XOXO Angela

© Angela Carson and Angela’s Bangalore blog and photos

 

I started Angela's Bangalore from my hotel room on the very first day I moved to India in 2011, while struck with jet lag! It was my very first blog, the country's very 1st luxury travel blog. Now I'm rocking YouTube as @ExpatAngela, hope you'll subscribe.

This article has 12 comments

  1. Ajay

    Angela, I think the guy read too much into your blogs about dating and other fun stuff and started to imagine you as a sex kitten or something 🙂 here in india women don’t express themselves as freely as women in west do and guys who are not used to it, take the fun stuff too seriously and start thinking with their long head too soon. In some cases its hard to blame them, as they have seen white women only in porn movies :), and they have only “that” picture in mind, which is not right, but still there is no excuse for obnoxious and insulting behavior or emails. Having said that, you are still pretty hot 😉

    • Angela Carson

      hahahhahaha that made me giggle, thanks for that 🙂 Yes, I know the ‘why’ behind WHY the initial thought is there but acting on it shouldn’t happen. It’s like knowing right from wrong and making a conscience effort to not break the law or be immoral. Indian men have seen enough of white women outside porn to know better. Thanks again for taking time to comment, cheers! Angela

  2. Arun

    lol India is full of such creepsters. They think women from west are easy to approach. Hopefully our society is changing slowly… but still a long way to go.

  3. Ajay

    Yes I agree, I think its about time Indian men should get that porn picture out of their mind, its no longer a good enough excuse 🙂 We should find another one..:)

  4. Krishna

    Hi Angela, I think Ajay and Arun are spot on. The only thing that explains this is that, this guy somehow imagined you to be some tomboyish white woman based on your blog entries. Having said that, i will try to answer your question whether does this happen to Indian women too. I know of a few cases, where a couple of my friends ( who happen to be women ) have had advances similar to what you described, made towards them, just because they happened to be outgoing and too friendly.
    Well all i can say is that not all Indian men are alike, some are very creepy and this guy is obviously one of the creepier wolf types. Just use your instincts and body language to cull out types like these. Of course, if the contact was through email, it is easier to stop responding.

    Btw , did you check my Bangalore bicycle blog.

    Good luck. Cheers!.

  5. Sameer

    Embarrassing. India has been and is delusionally isolated from the rest of the world. It is like walking into a tribe. Conversely, far reaching media lulls all of us into thinking that just because our bodies are similar and we wear similar clothes that the world is similar. You were very professional.

  6. WishtobeAnonymous

    Hi,
    Its called “insulting the woman trick to occupy the space in her head”. Its been used by pick-up guys all over the world!

    http://www.tressugar.com/Insulting-Women-Pickup-Strategy-17250848

    The vest example – Successfully used by Enrique Iglesis to get Anna Kournikova during their first shooting when he said that “i cannot shoot with her her pimples are too distracting”

    Dont think too much into it!

  7. Ajay Canada

    I think his comments were inappropriate and disrespectful to you.We have a saying in Indian”You don’t call a spade a spade” opposite of the west, meaning you don’t speak rubbish, but good words only.I have been in Canada all my life, but speak Hindi fluently, just like people in India.I think the fact you did not give him “bhav”(attention), his ego was tarnished and he had tried to justify his actions. Angela, you are the best unconditionally.

    • Angela Carson

      I {heart} Canadian Indian love 🙂 hehe That was a very kind comment from you. And yes, I could see the desperation brewing after I shut off. What is really impressing me is his willpower right now if he’s read the post. I wonder how much of his crap was true and if his wife could figure out it was him if she read it (cuz everyone is married in India). I’d just delete it anyway but I’m happy he hasn’t chimed back in 🙂 –Ange

  8. Beatrix

    Angela,
    As a white woman who’s lived in India & Nepal for 12 yrs I can tell you it never stops.
    Doesn’t matter what your age, socioeconomic level, online, offline, whatever.
    It’s really sad because you can’t even flirt a bit in India – tantrums & insults generally ensue when Indian males finally figure out you aren’t interested.

  9. randomerscloud

    hahaa this is hilarious!!!omg- I am literally laughing, how can men be such dumb ass at times and i hate to admit it, bieng an indian- Indian men are so racist and judgmental …enjoying your blog posts!!

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